Why You Should Never Stop Chasing Happiness

For a while, people were obsessed with happiness.

Live in the present. Meditate. Practice yoga. Pray to God. Read a bunch of self-help, so we can optimize our lifestyle for maximum happiness.

“I just wanna be happy, man.”

But everyone seems to be snapping out of this happiness-trance lately. Look at all these articles telling you not to chase happiness:

Why Chasing Happiness May Leave You Feeling Unhappier Than Ever

4 Reasons to Stop Pursuing Happiness & What to Do Instead

Stop Chasing After Happiness And Do This Instead

Why I Stopped Chasing Happiness

To be fair, most of what they say is true.

If you chase happiness, you force yourself to be positive all the time. You start to have unrealistic expectations about how happy you’re supposed to be. You become self-centered. You start ignoring other people and become lonelier, because you only care about your own feelings. And worse, you get disappointed if you don’t feel happy. That only makes you even more unhappy.

It seems like this race to eternal happiness is, too, another fantasy that will never come true.

But I don’t agree that you should stop chasing happiness. You should. With all your heart – even if it is illusory and short-fleeting.

Here’s why.

How I Failed Miserably in My Journey To Happiness

When I was in my early twenties, I didn’t know what to do with life. I didn’t have any direction. I didn’t have any purpose. And that lack of direction, combined with the expectations I had with myself, overwhelmed me. I was twitchy, nervous and stressed all the time.

I was scared to move forward, but I was also scared to stay the same.

And of course, it wasn’t only my personal problems that stressed me. My relationships, my family, and my social life all contributed to my stress.

I wanted to escape. I wanted to live life like a teenager again – no responsibilities, just have fun and enjoy life. But it was not to be.

To find happiness, I turned to spirituality, like many people in their twenties do. I was born into a Buddhist family, but I never practiced it. And for the first time in my life, I opened a Buddhist sutra, and started reading.

From then on, I studied and practiced a lot of spirituality teachings. Not only did I study Buddhism, but also Christianity, Taoism, Stoicism, New Age, and so on.

And with that, I also got into self-improvement. I read a lot of books. I began working out. I learned to play music. I learned foreign languages. I learned to write.

I wanted to be the best version of myself. And I was close to living that life of my dreams. I was becoming the man that I always wanted to become. I thought I would finally be happy.

But guess what? I failed.

Here’s What Happiness Really Is

All these years, I put so much effort into chasing happiness. I thought I was bulletproof. I thought I was close to enlightenment.

Then I was met with a failed career. A problematic relationship. My grandmother was dead. My friend broke his spine falling off a building (he was paralyzed).

When everything is crumbling down, all spiritual knowledge, all self-improvement tips in the world wouldn’t help you. You have no choice but to grief and to mourn.

And that’s when I realized happiness is not eternal. Life is unpredictable. There is a time to be happy, and a time to be sad.

Hate to break it to you, but no one can ever reach enlightenment. That is, the state of permanent happiness.

No matter how much we do, we are still human beings. Happiness is ephemeral. Our emotions and thoughts are always changing, interacting, and being influenced by the outside world.

And the glorified gurus? Eckhart Tolle, Thich Nhat Hanh, Sadhguru, Osho, Byron Katie…they are all just human beings like you and me. They will cry when they lose the people they love. They will feel pain when they bleed. They will be disappointed if all their fame and money is taken away from them.

Happiness is but an illusion. I even wrote about it before. It’s just a good mood that doesn’t last.

The True Reward of the Chase

Still, I am glad that I chased happiness. Because the meaning of the chase is not about getting to happiness at all. It is about the journey that you go through.

And in my journey to happiness, I accomplished a lot inwardly and outwardly.

Inwardly, I learned to manage my thoughts. I learned to hijack my emotions. I conquered my fears. I learned to love and forgive myself. I learned to push myself to do the right thing, even if I don’t want to.

Outwardly, I gained a lot of knowledge that could never be taken away from me. My body is stronger and healthier. I can communicate with people from different countries. I learned to money to support myself.

And best of all, I learned to write. By writing this article, I am leaving behind a legacy.

If I hadn’t chased happiness, I wouldn’t have achieved anything.

Truth be told, not many people are willing to go through all that trouble to improve themselves.

But they would, if they have something to go after. If they want to find happiness.

Run Toward That Light

So don’t let people tell you otherwise. If you want to be happy, chase happiness.

That is, even if the triumph of accomplishment is fleeting. Even if the peace that meditation offers you is short-living. Even if you know sadness will never go away.

The chase to happiness is not an easy walk – reading a pile of spiritual books, sitting through boring meditation sessions, managing your thoughts 24/7, lifting weights, studying a new language, losing money, and dealing with writer’s block day after day…

But after all that work you put into the chase, you will come out a better, and stronger person. You will have a tale worth telling. You will leave behind a legacy.

Success is meaningless. Happiness is fleeting. Life is suffering. We all know that.

But this isn’t an excuse to stop trying, and to stop going for what you want. Live a life without regrets. Leave no stone unturned. Because the sense of fulfillment that comes with it might even be more satisfying than happiness itself.

Now, imagine this.

You are lost in the middle of a cold, dark forest. You are afraid. You are shaking. You heard the growls of beasts from afar.

But as you lift your head up, you see a lighthouse, its light tearing through the night sky. A glimpse of hope. A faint promise to safety.

You don’t know if this is the salvation you have been looking for. All you know is that if you surrender to the darkness, you will be trapped here, forever.

Go, and run toward that light. Even if it is not the answer, it might lead you to a paradise you have never known before.

What To Do Next

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Otherwise, I wish you luck on your journey to wisdom and happiness.


  1. Angela says

    Thank you Blon,

    I always find your articles inspiring! We are all flawed human beings striving towards greater happiness, greater prosperity and even elusive love. However, experiences of others can shed a light on our own innate feelings and experiences and guide us to a better understanding of ourselves.

    Keep up the good work. A

  2. Johann van Staden says

    Hi Blon,

    Thank you so much for this post. It’s funny how, again, this seems to be the exact thing I needed to hear at my current stage in life.

    I’m finding myself at the age of 40, retrenched from a company I’ve been working with for the past 15 years, and then my car got stolen a little over a week ago as well.

    This situation has forced me into a state of more severe depression than I’ve been accustomed to for a very long time, and caused me to question the meaning and purpose of everything, and why it’s even worthwhile to keep trying at all, when ultimately everything seems to be futile in the end any way.

    Reading this post, however, has awakened me once more to the eternal hope I always cling to, doggedly sometimes even. It has made me realize that it is the very act of chasing that glimmer of hope, not necessarily the promise of hope itself, that makes it all worthwhile.

    It made me realize that the purpose of life and living is not to reach an arbitrarily specified end goal. Truth be told, the end goal is the same for all of us. Death. No, the purpose of life is the act of living itself, the act of reaching for that abstract goal of happiness and the fleeting moments of achieving it.

    More over, if more people reach for those moments of happiness more consistently, then it follows that more moments of happiness will be achieved, by more people, which may cause the overall state of mind of people on earth to be raised to a higher average level of happiness overall. Now that, I find, seems to really be a worthwhile goal to reach for, and one that can be said to be more concrete and everlasting.

    Well, that’s just my opinion.

    Thank you again for a very poignant post. I shall look forward to your future sincere and honest posts as well – keep up the good work!


    • Blon Lee says

      Thanks Johann, your comment provides a lot of value, and I think the readers here can all learn something from it.

      And you’re right, the end for us all is death. It is equal, and no matter what kind of life we lived, we’ll all end up the same. That’s why some people will choose to live a detached, disengaged and passive life (Buddhism comes to mind), which I don’t entirely agree with.

      We should chase after what we want, even if the feel of accomplishment wouldn’t last. In the end, that’s how civilizations are built, or else we wouldn’t be enjoying their legacies from thousands of years ago.

      Thank you Johann!

  3. Robert says

    Hi Blom,

    Thank you for sharing this story about happiness.
    This is how I think about happiness:
    The world nature is even when you don’t chase happiness it will always hit you by suprise.
    It’s like the seasons coming and going and you will be suprised by the beauty of the spring.
    And even when it isn’t spring in your thougts and journey at this moment , you can also find it in your memory – always. Use the memory technique every day just for a few moments and happiness will find his ways back in your life.

    I think your writers block is just a building stone to your next level of enlightenment 😉

    • Blon Lee says

      Thank you Robert! Yes – my writing is flowing more smoothly, now that I’m true to who I really am.

      By the way, I’ve actually heard something about emotional memory once. Maybe I’ll look into it!

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